Lyndah In Style

A Fashion Catalogue

Happy New Year to you. I hope you’re enjoying your year so far.

This is my first article of this year. My resolution this year is to ensure that I post an article every Monday for the rest of the year.

It won’t be easy because life always comes with its surprises… but wish me well and if you can, kindly share the content with someone.

Enough chit-chat, let’s get into it.

I believe that one of the best-kept secrets of the most stylish women is that they know when to say yes…and when to say no…to style choices.

The most stylish women – the ones who always look effortlessly pulled together and tastefully chic – know that they don’t have to participate in every fashion trend, utilize every style hack, or wear every trending color to stay in step with style.

Today let’s take a cue from these women and learn five questions we can ask ourselves so we can make wise style choices and look as fabulous as they do…without copying every single thing they do!

Each time you consider adding a trending color or style, trying out a current style hack, or wearing a new piece of clothing, first ask yourself…

Q #1 – Does it fit my personal style aesthetic?

My personal style aesthetic or style essence is Feminine, classic elegance with a modern twist. Those are my words. I made them up. You get to make up your own personal style essence too. Every woman gets to determine for herself what message she wants to communicate with her clothing choices.

And that’s exactly what a style essence is, by the way. It’s what you communicate to the world with the way you dress. If you still need some help determining your personal style essence, let me know and we’ll work on it together.

Stylish women have put their signature on their style and wear it boldly.

Q #2 – Do I like this?

Shoot. If you don’t like a particular garment or color or style hack, stop right there. Again, you absolutely do not have to participate in any trend or formula you don’t absolutely enjoy.

You could be someone who does not like any clothing that features buttons as decoration. It doesn’t matter how pretty, but if you don’t like sweaters that feature buttons, you shouldn’t buy them or wear them.

Of course, I also believe a truly confident and beautiful woman will not need to tell everyone she doesn’t like something. Especially if other people seem to be enjoying that garment, color, or style. Ahem. 

No, the most stylish women just quietly choose the things they like and allow others to enjoy those they don’t without feeling or intimating that they are somehow right and others are wrong.

A stylish woman enjoys wearing what she likes.

Q #3 – Does this work well in the wardrobe I’ve cultivated?

Rather than just accumulating clothing you like, you might want to build a wardrobe that works together beautifully.

Anytime we consider bringing a new garment or accessory into that well-cultivated wardrobe that we’ve worked so hard to fine-tune, it’s wise to ask if it will “play well” with other things that are already in your closet.

If it doesn’t, resist the urge!

A stylish woman curates a wardrobe that works for her over time.

Q #4 – Is this a color that is in my selected personal color palette?

Now if you’re considering adding a garment or accessory in a new and trending color, it may well not be in your chosen color palette. That’s okay.

But if it’s not, you’ll want to consider purchasing that new color in an accessory or inexpensive garment such as a t-shirt rather than a wardrobe essential or expensive garment.

But it’s so important for us to embrace the colors we’ve “limited ourselves to” because this limit is actually going to serve us well in the end. Remember, the stylish woman knows when to say no.

Saying no to a trending color doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy it; it just means you’ve wisely determined a) it’s not a great color for you or b) it doesn’t play well in your cultivated wardrobe.

A stylish woman wears the colors that make her look and feel her best…regardless of what’s “in.

Q #5 – How do I feel in this?

When all is said and done the most beautiful thing you can wear, besides your smile, is a little self-confidence. And let’s face it, you’re more likely to smile if your confidence level is high.

Sometimes I love the idea of something. But when I put it on my body, it just doesn’t work. Maybe it doesn’t feel like me; it doesn’t feel authentic. Or maybe it feels itchy. Or maybe it binds and bulges or sags and bags. Whatever the case, it doesn’t feel good.

On the other hand, when I feel good in my clothes, it shows.

Stylish women feel good in their clothes and it shows.


Now, that’s not to say we should never push ourselves beyond our comfort zone a little. I do believe that some new trends or style hacks take a little (or a lot!) of getting used to.

So don’t be afraid to give something new more than a few spins around the block before determining if it’s a good fit or not. Otherwise, we could easily talk ourselves into just wearing our PJs all day, every day.

Also, I’m not talking about fit here. Obviously fit is key. But that’s a question to ask of a particular garment. The five questions I’ve posed here are more for trying out a new concept.

But, yes. Definitely make sure your clothes fit.

Thank you for stopping in today. I appreciate you reading today’s post. Let me know if you have questions or thoughts you’d like to share.

Have a good one!

2 thoughts on “How to Make the Best Style Choices

  1. Yaaaaassss!!!! Thank you! My resolution is to read all articles!

    I’m challenged by the part you said that stylish women take part in trends… literally my dream this year. Hehe. Asante.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *